10 Secrets Tips And Tricks On How To Make Your Marriage Stronger

November 13, 2016

You want to be with the love of your life forever, and he with you, so always make your marriage a top priority (as in every day!).
Here are some easy and fun ways to keep improving an already awesome partnership.
Even if youre not married yet, you can start practicing these tips to enjoy your relationship even more throughout the wedding-planning process.
Grooms and husbands, hold onto this list as well — these rules apply to you, too!

1.With Sex, Aim For Quantity Over Quality.
When spouses dont get busy regularly, they can lose physical connection.
Clinical sexologist and marriage therapist Kat Van Kirk, DHS, author of The Married Sex Solution, suggests "removing the expectation of having long, technical lovemaking sessions."
Whether its a quickie in the shower or making out like teenagers before bed, "10 focused minutes can build more intimate moments than many couples have experienced in years," she says.
Whats more, "this can turn into longer lovemaking sessions."

2.Make Time For Exercise
Its important to work out — no, not to be a size 0 so your hubby finds you attractive, but so that you feel your best.
Newlyweds who exercise have more self-confidence while clothed or naked, enjoy mood-boosting hormones and are less likely to experience depression.
Exercise solo and with your partner: Running a 5K together or taking an exercise class is a fun way to bond.

3.Verbalize To The Things You Love And Appreciate All The Time.
Remind yourself of all of the reasons why you fell in love in the first place, and then list how much more wonderful your partner has gotten since your marriage.
Also, tell her (or him) how much she means to you, how much you love her, and how beautiful she is 10 times a day.
“Believe me, no one will ever say that they hear such compliments about themselves too many times,” Patkin says.
“And not only will this make your partner feel great in the moment, but consistently complimenting one another is the single greatest long-term vitamin you can each give.”

4.Concentrate All Your Affection And Attention On Each Other
During one conference, the speaker challenged every couple to out-serve each other.
When our satisfaction is in each other, that protects us from affairs of the mind, heart, or body.
I constantly feel out-served, out-cherished and out-loved by Greg, but I try my best to keep up.

5.Hug For 2 Minutes And Kiss For 30 seconds Each Day
"Often, kisses and hugs become mechanical and quick," says marriage and family therapist Kim Blackham.
The problem: Those hurried pecks and embraces dont offer the same feel-good benefits longer stretches of physical intimacy do.
"Oxytocin, a chemical our bodies release when we touch one another, emotionally connects people," says Blackham.
No need to set a timer, says Blackham, but do extend your hugs and kisses longer than you normally would; youll feel a new sense of connection.

6.Figure Out What Your Strengths Are And Play To Them
If, for example, you’re great with words but don’t have much of a math brain, don’t take on the task of making sure the bills are paid and the accounts are balanced each month.
Instead, take the lead in dealing with teachers, repairmen, etc.
When you force yourself to do something for which you have little aptitude, you only frustrate yourself and, by extension, the people with whom you live.

7.Ask Your Spouse, "What Do You Need More Of?"
Being this direct, and safe to talk to, lets him (and you) say, “I need some more alone time when I get home from work” or “I need more cuddle time” or “I want to make out more.”
Your spouse isn’t a mind reader, and they want to know how to please you better.
You get your wish out there, no resentments build, and you have a great tool for your ultra-strong marriage that you can use again and again.

8.God Has Roles For Men And Women
Attending the Weekend to Remember conference every year brings adjustments to our marriage.
Revelations come as we continue to grow in our understanding of our roles as man and woman, father and mother.
In a changing and self-centered world, we have learned that we cannot go wrong by embracing Gods unchanging and perfect roles for men and women in marriage.

9.Sit Next To Each Other At Restaurant Tables
You may be inclined to take a seat across from your partner, but "its a more aggressive stance," says Blackham. After all, its how you and a prospective employer sit during an interview.
Next time youre out, try grabbing a booth or putting separate chairs at a table side by side.
Instead of playing footsie under the table, your man can slide an arm around you or touch your knee, while you can whisper in his ear.
"Its a friendlier and much more intimate position," Blackham adds.

10.Have A Sense Of Humor
Don’t be uptight or overly sensitive, making it impossible for your spouse to playfully tease you if you do something silly.
If you’re always a raw nerve, hell feel like hes walking on eggshells, which makes you a chore.
Laugh off a joke (and deliver one right back at your husband) to show him that youre a carefree partner who doesnt make him nervous to kid around with.